This book is a gift from the WOMEN AT THE TABLES to practicing
women alcoholics and addicts. It is also a gift we give to each other
and the AA community we form. It is the expression of our individual and
collective experience, strength, and hope. This book is presented with
the hope that it may help someone who is practicing an addiction to find
that hope that can be seen in each story. For each of us recovery began
when we truly surrendered to our individual life story. Find yourself
in these stories. Transformation is available to all. Miracles happen!
The women who have told their stories are courageous. They are courageous
for their journey. They are doubly courageous for sharing their story
with the world. The stories are told in their voice. The women have faced
their fear, anger, and pain. They have exposed their joy, discovery, recovery,
and personal philosophy to public scrutiny. I am continually honored by
these women of courage. In telling her story to me, each woman has truly
presented me with a gift. I respect, honor, and love these women and all
the women at the tables.
Each "story teller" tells her story from the perspective of
the day. Each day's growth and reflection will change the telling of the
story. Tomorrow, past facts will not change, but the observations and
accent on the "telling" may. Personal growth and transformation
in abstinence is a journey. The growth in recovery is not dependent on
the depth of the "alcoholic bottom" but rather the reflection
they have given to their story and the depth of their soul searching.
Length of time on the AA program is also not a barometer.
Who are the recovering alcoholic women? Are they social outcasts, women
on the streets, or your neighbor? Current available stories of women alcoholics
would lead one to believe that they are either television and movie stars,
politicians, bums, or prostitutes. More than likely they are your neighbor,
the professional woman, store clerk, woman in the grocery line, PTA chairman,
or an "at home mom." They are in all walks of life, levels of
education, and salary brackets. They are one out of every five women,
"everyday" people. Would you recognize her? Probably not!
Writing the book involved the following process:
1. Identifying the woman through personal knowledge or recommendation.
2. Contacting the subject for interest
3. Scheduling an appointment
4. Interviewing
A. Collecting statistical information
B. Recording the story on tape
C. Selecting an anonymous name for the story
5. Transcribing of the tape
6. Editing the story
When I began the project, I had no idea of the impact that this work
would have on my life. I had been on a personal quest when I was gifted
with this work. The idea to collect and tell these stories came to me
in a semi-sleep state as a gift from the "collective unconscious".
Each interview has been an experience of the sacred in my life. We listened
and heard each other into being. As each woman told her story, tremendous
energy filled the room. We bonded on a very deep level. Each story is
my story. I am forever changed. I have experienced and come to understand
more about love, trust, courage, and compassion than I could have imagined.
These gifts are now a part of me - gifts that I can apply in my life.
I am compelled to continue to hear, in depth, women's stories and to celebrate
the joy at each personal transformation. I hunger to learn of women's
personal philosophy and spiritual connection. I am deeply honored to be
able to present these stories to the reader.
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